Understanding True Detachment Through the Shiva Tattwa
Now I would say, to understand the detachment of Spirit we should study ourselves very well, clearly – How are we attached?” We are attached, firstly, by our brain. Mostly by our brain. Because all our conditionings are in our brain and all of our ego is also in our brain.
So emotional attachments are through our brain and all our conditionings are in our brain and all of our ego is also in our brain. So emotional attachments are through our brain and all our egoistical attachments also are through our brain.
That’s why it is said that after Realization one must try to practice the Shiva –Tattwa by practising detachment .
Reference : Pandharpur, India. February 29, 1984
Understanding Emotional Attachments in Sahaja Yoga
Now the third nadi. Third nadi is the nadi by which we feel attached, attached to someone. Like this is my child; this is my husband; this is my family; this is my wife; this is my father; this is my mother. In the beginning of Sahaja Yoga of everyone, when they are just the beginners, so they talk about their whole family – my father is like this, my mother is sick, my mother’s sister’s brother’s this, that’s, real.. this thing is not well. As if, you see, we all have taken a contract. What should I do?
Like today somebody said, that you see, ah, they lost their first child, first child they lost because the child was sleeping in another room. I said, small children should sleep with mother and mother must look after the children. It’s a simple I mean. In India, no mother would accept such a situation. She’ll throw away the husband, say “what’s this? I have to look after the child.” So I said tell them that they should sleep with the child. But they don’t believe in it. All right. What can we do?
Have we taken their contract that we should look after their children? Even when they don’t want to listen to us? So the idea, is all the time in the
beginning, is that “Oh Mother I’ve been doing Sahaja Yoga for one month, but so far my financial condition has not improved.” As if they’re going to sue me for
that. As if I’ve let them down.
But they don’t want to see that you have just now come to Sahaja Yoga, or even if you have been in Sahaja Yoga for so many years, you have not been a Sahaja Yogi. Something missing, you don’t deserve. Something wrong with you, not with Sahaja Yoga. But they feel that Sahaja Yoga is something which has got the contract. Immediatel they’ll inform you.
Now somebody is sick there, somebody, somebody, somebody, somebody, send five Sahaja Yogis. For what? These attachments start working within us.
Why Attachment Can Lead to Spiritual Fall
Now some people I’ve seen are very attached to their children and they go on pampering ‘my child, my child’. And suddenly they discover the child is now is
a devil’s child. The child starts answering back, saying all kinds of things, beating the parents, misbehaving, and then they suddenly discover that this is the child whom I have been looking after, giving so much love. And they feel even worse because, “I have done so much for my wife and she is treating me like this.” “I’ve done so much for my husband and he is treating me like this.”
Why do you do so much? There’s no need. And if you are doing it you just do it and you forget it. I never feel that way. I have known of Sahaja Yogis for whom I
have worked very hard and they have gone down.
Only thing if I feel anything is “God knows where will they jump? Where will they be in hell? What will happen to them?” That’s the only concern. Not the concern wha has happened because nothing can happen to me. But if they have been sinful I just get worried about their future, about their lives. That’s different.
So this kind of attachment that is we call in Sanskrit is ‘mamartha‘. This is mine that’s my joy. My this thing, my that. Who are your relations, are Sahaja Yogis. Remember this. It’s a sentence you must remember:
My relations are Sahaja Yogis only and anybody who plays against Sahaja Yogis, troubles Sahaja Yogis, -that person could be my own wife, could be my own child – is not mine. Because I’ll not allow such a thing to happen. This relationship is all right till Sahaja Yogis are one with each other.
As soon as somebody tries to harm any other Sahaja Yogi then I’m not with that person. I’ve seen there are many like that, very good Sahaja Yogis. They’ll never side with their wives, never side with their children because they know if you are siding with them you are making them sinful. You’re destroying them.
They’re worried about their ascent so they’ll never allow, never allow anybody – a relation of theirs, to trouble others. I’ve seen some children who are extremely naughty, very troublesome, very violent. And the parents just say “Mother, put them right. We leave it to You.” They are to be put right. But others might say, “Oh, no, no, no, no you see my child he can not do such a thing,” you know. So one has to understand the discrimination part of it that “why am I attached?”
I’ve given the simile many a times like the sap of the tree rises, goes to various places of the trees, various areas; looks after the bark, looks after the branch, looks after the leaves, flowers and fruits and comes back. Or it gets evaporated. Doesn’t get attached. If it gets involved into one of them the whole tree will die and that part which is so close to the sap will also die.
But sap has much more sense than we have. To them, husband’s so important. I mean so many problems of husbands, wives, this, that… like “God”, I sometimes think, “what is this?”
That’s why we used to say take a sanyasa. So nobody can talk about wife, children, nothing. You have to be a sanyasan. First of all be a sanyasin, so no headache to the guru. As soon as you start talking about any one relation of yours the guru will say “All right you get out. Nothing doing. No good.”
But in Sahaja Yoga… Sahaja Yoga has much deeper work to do. It has to penetrate into the society, into the political life, into economic life. You have to emancipate the whole world. Try to understand your responsibility.
You are not only here for one ascetic ascent, no. How much wisdom you must have, how much love you must have, and how much discrimination you must have, to understand that you are chosen for the emancipation of the whole world. So, now this so-called limited love, what is the solution which takes you to destruction is the unlimited love.
Because Shiva is nothing but love. He’s love that corrects, that nourishes, that wants your benevolence. That’s what Shiva is. It wants your benevolence. It looks after you benevolence. So when you are looking after the benevolence of others with love, then the whole life changes, the whole pattern changes, and you really enjoy it because you become one with so many, concerned with so many families, so many things, so many problems of others. You just feel you are one with so many.
Reference : 1991-02-16 Mahashivaratri Puja, Chinchiano Italy
